Daily Life Lesson 1

I never understood why it was that those who are most egotistical and arrogant are the ones with the least confidence. Today I learned one reason why.

People with no confidence in themselves think they cannot help others. "I'm useless, what can I do for others?" So they naturally only think about how to make themselves happy, they become selfish, only thinking about their needs, and what others can do for them. It's a cycle. They can't even make themselves happy, which reinforces the idea that they can't help others, so this lowers their confidence even more, which makes them unhappy for feeling useless.

But as soon as you start helping others, then you begin to see where your strengths are. Everyone has some sort of expertise that they can offer in service to their communities, in service to people. The people we help benefit from this, and this boosts our confidence, making ourselves happier, and giving us the drive we need to continue helping others in the way that we know how to.

Confidence is not the same as arrogance. A confident person is humble, and doesn't see the need to boast his/her strengths. His/her actions can speak for themselves, and the main purpose is to help others. An arrogant person boasts about his/her strengths. The intentions are not to help others, but to show off. People will resent this, and the arrogant person will not feel happy.